Handling Urges to Drink

The following activity offers suggestions to support you in your decision to cut back or quit drinking. It can be used with counseling or therapy and is not meant as a substitute for professional help. If you choose to try it on your own and at any point feel you need more help, then seek support (see Help Links).

Plan ahead to stay in control.

As you change your drinking, it’s normal and common to have urges or a craving for alcohol. The words “urge” and “craving” refer to a broad range of thoughts, physical sensations, or emotions that tempt you to drink, even though you have at least some desire not to. You may feel an uncomfortable pull in two directions or sense a loss of control.

Fortunately, urges to drink are short-lived, predictable, and controllable. This short activity offers a recognize-avoid-cope approach commonly used in cognitive behavioral therapy, which helps people to change unhelpful thinking patterns and reactions. It also provides worksheets to help you uncover the nature of your urges to drink and to make a plan for handling them.

With time, and by practicing new responses, you’ll find that your urges to drink will lose strength, and you’ll gain confidence in your ability to deal with urges that may still arise at times. If you are having a very difficult time with urges, or do not make progress with the strategies in this activity after a few weeks, then consult a healthcare professional for support. In addition, some new, non-addictive medications can reduce the desire to drink or lessen the rewarding effect of drinking so it is easier to stop.

Recognize two types of “triggers.”

An urge to drink can be set off by external triggers in the environment and internal ones within yourself.

• External triggers are people, places, things, or times of day that offer drinking opportunities or remind you of drinking. These “tempting situations” are more obvious, predictable, and avoidable than internal triggers.
• Internal triggers can be puzzling because the urge to drink just seems to “pop up.” But if you pause to think about it when it happens, you’ll find that the urge may have been set off by a fleeting thought, a positive emotion such as excitement, a negative emotion such as frustration, or a physical sensation such as a headache, tension, or nervousness.

Consider tracking and analyzing your urges to drink for a couple of weeks. This will help you become more aware of when and how you experience urges, what triggers them, and ways to avoid or control them. A sample tracking form is available on this site.

Avoid tempting situations.

In many cases, your best strategy will be to avoid taking the chance that you'll have an urge, then slip and drink. At home, keep little or no alcohol. Socially, avoid activities involving drinking. If you feel guilty about turning down an invitation, remind yourself that you are not necessarily talking about "forever." When the urges subside or become more manageable, you may decide to ease gradually into some situations you now choose to avoid. In the meantime, you can stay connected with friends by suggesting alternate activities that don't involve drinking. (Also, see the activity on building drink refusal skills.)

Cope with triggers you can't avoid.

It's not possible to avoid all tempting situations or to block internal triggers, so you'll need a range of strategies to handle urges to drink. Here are some options:

• Remind yourself of your reasons for making a change. Carry your top reasons on a wallet card or in an electronic message that you can access easily, such as on a mobile phone or a saved email. (Visit the pros and cons page to list and sort your reasons.)
• Talk it through with someone you trust. Have a trusted friend on standby for a phone call, or bring one along for support in situations where you might be tempted to drink.
• Distract yourself with a healthy, alternative activity. For different situations, come up with engaging short, mid-range, and longer options, like texting or calling someone, watching short online videos, lifting weights to music, showering, meditating, taking a walk, or doing a hobby.
• Challenge the thought that drives the urge. Stop it, analyze the error in it, and replace it. Example: “It couldn't hurt to have one little drink. WAIT a minute—what am I thinking? One could hurt, as I've seen ‘just one’ lead to lots more. I am sticking with my choice not to drink.”
• Ride it out without giving in. Instead of fighting an urge, accept it as normal and temporary. As you ride it out, keep in mind that it will soon crest like an ocean wave and pass.
• Leave tempting situations quickly and gracefully. It helps to plan your escape in advance.

Plan to handle urges to drink.

The links below will take you to forms for tracking your urges to drink and planning ways to handle them in the future.

• Track your urges
• Plan your coping strategies